When one thinks of intervention there are various conceptions of what that might look like. It might be the conception that the interventionist is going to bust into the house, cause a chaotic scene, and force the addict to go to treatment. Or maybe that the family is going to shame the addict and throw the past in their face, telling the addict that they are a screw up and that they have to get help or else they won’t love them. These ideas are completely off base. There might be people out there who do things like this, but I have found that these types of messages don’t hold the necessary depth and weight it takes to truly motivate the addict and carry them through their experience. And an intervention is just that, a motivator.
Every addict that stays sober has some sort of an intervention. An intervention is a circumstance which hinders the development of the disease of addiction and motivates the addict to seek recovery. For some this might be that the law intervened when the addict got arrested. For others may be losing their job was the intervention. A lot of times the addict will have moments of clarity when they are willing to seek help, but if action is not taken following this desire the insanity of the disease will return and their resolve will disappear. A lot of people believe that an addict can only get well when they want the help, but my response is what lines can get brought down to manufacture an experience that motivates the addict to get well? It is possible. This is the job of an interventionist; to help guide the family to bring down their bottom line and motivate the addict. This experience should not be shameful for the addict, it should be led with a message of love. It is EXTREMELY powerful to be in a room and hear how much everyone around you loves you. Most likely the addict is already feeling enough shame, guilt, and pity. They must have a truly inspiring and deep message to motivate them. If we go in there with our guns a blazing all that will happen is we will get into a power struggle with the disease. A trained professional can work through the land mines and keep this experience on track. The addict knows all the buttons to push on their loved ones, and knows how to manipulate and deflect. If a professional comes in, it will be someone in which the addict doesn’t know all of those things so that the process will not be confrontational. Confrontation is a tool addicts use to deflect and manipulate situations.
The point being is that this experience is out of love. And with that love it can entirely change the family system, and motivate all that are involved to get freedom from the powerlessness that they have from the disease.