One of the most common objections I encounter is, ” I can do this on my own, I don’t need anyone else’s help.” In fact, at one point in my life this flawed idea was very much a part of my own thinking. Let me first give ample credit to those individuals who have been able to conquer the abuse of alcohol or drugs themselves. There are many who have. The ones I write about today are the ones like me, the real alcoholics and addicts. They are the ones who have “lost the power of choice.” By that I mean there are alcoholics and addicts in a category that is different from drug and alcohol abusers. These are addicts who have every reason to stop, but can’t. In the face of negative consequences they will continue in their addiction. This category of addict has makes countless promises to themselves and others that things will change for the better but at the end of the day it has progressed even further. They no longer can distinguish the true from the false. This category does not possess the tools nor will power necessary to exact the changes required to maintain long term sobriety on their own. They have to be willing to do it someone else’s way because their way hasn’t previously worked and never will.
If this group is to have hope, they have to immerse themselves in a community of individuals that understand the present delusions and can hold this person to a level of accountability not previously known. This is the importance of community to sobriety. Addiction is a disease that centers in the mind. The chosen community will bring to light all of the erroneous thoughts and beliefs that allow us to continue in our disease. They help the individual to accept the reality of their current situation and to take action to correct it. There are many groups out there. There are a number of excellent treatment centers available to people of all income levels. Twelve step groups have been the mainstay of recovery for millions of recovered alcoholics and addicts. In my experience these are the most successful avenues for sustained sobriety. There are others that work as well. Recovery is possible for those willing to work for it and allow others to help them.